What All Mums Have In Common

What All Mums Have In Common

Hey Guys!
I’ve been meeting a lot more mums lately as my little man is getting ready for school next year and it’s made me think about motherhood and what unites us together. It’s time we stop the ‘Mummy Wars’. We don’t need people judging our every move in how we parent, if anything, we need to connect, empathise and uplift.

Remember, every mum loses their shit, every mum has wiped a butt, dealt with tantrums, been sleep deprived and has been spewed on. No matter what you look like; if you’re having a scraggly puffy eyed kinda day or if you look like you danced out of an Instagram filter, there are some key commonalities that we can all agree on:

  1. We All Want Our Children To Be Healthy

No matter if you have private health insurance or not, or whether you choose alternative medicine or western medicine. The bottom line is that it all comes from our desire to keep our children healthy. The path may be paved differently but the goal is still the same.

  1. We All Want Our Children To Be Happy

No matter where you come from or how little you have or how much you have, seeing happiness flow through your child is magic and you’ll do whatever you can to prolong that happiness.

  1. We All Worry

We’ve all experienced the worry warts when it comes to our child’s health, safety and wellbeing. Sure it may be expressed in different areas, for example; some mums are happy to let their kids climb those high death traps you see in playgrounds while other mums freak out if their child climbs higher than they can reach. It doesn’t matter, it’s up to them but we can all agree that we all worry about our kids and being connected to other mums who can show empathy when the worries hit, can help a lot.

  1. We All Need Our Mum Time

Growing up with a single mum and in my time as a single mum, I know the need for mum time, for the alone time, for the breather. But I also get it from the other side of the fence. I’ve seen nuclear families who are very privileged and the mum is just as tired, just as worn out and has little time for herself. We all have our limit, we all need our mum time and we are all entitled to it and should not be judged for needing a breather. No amount of money or status makes you a robot immune to the stresses and pressures of raising a family.

  1. We All Need Support

All mums need support and that support comes in all different shapes and sizes. We all have our moments of insanity and our moments of helplessness. In my family, the women are the head of the family, the strong ones and the ones that keep it all together and that can be a lonely road if we don’t ask for support. It may seem that some mums have it all together but in reality, we all need support at times during our parenting journey.We all have our moments and having a connection with other mums that get it, can make a world of difference.

  1. We Don’t Want To Screw Up Our Kids

No mum out there had a child that came with a handbook. There is no cheat sheet, no private lab that rewires your brain allowing you to know how to parent the correct way. We are all trying to figure it out the best way we can with what we have at the time. No mum wants to screw her kids up and we all just want to give our kids the best life possible so they can grow up to be beautifully abled adults with a touch of dysfunctionality just to keep things interesting.

 I hope you enjoyed reading my list of commonalities. The last one that goes without saying but I’m going to say it anyway is that we all love our children ❤

Have a wonderful evening

Amy

Xx

 

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5 Things To Help You Get Through Those Hectic Weeks

5 Things To Help You Get Through Those Hectic Weeks

Happy Sunday!

First off, how awesome is Garfield, especially the original cartoon 😀 I just had to use him for this blog.

It’s Sunday evening and I’m now able to sit and reflect on my week. It feels like there’s been a poltergeist following me around creating hurdles for me everywhere I went. One of my cats got sick (a burst abscess from a cat bite (from the neighbourhood jerk cat) but he’s doing much better now phew!), my scanner decided to give up on life all week until today and the place where I went to scan my work in, scanned them all too bright for me to work with them and to top it off, my bathroom sink blocked.

It’s been one of those weeks where I kept singing “just keep swimming, just keep swimming” over and over. Luckily, I have an amazing partner to keep me from falling into a bumbling mess as my goals for my work and my store has fallen behind and luckily, I have my little love who always reminds me that the sun still rises for everyone even when it’s looking dark.

So yes, I didn’t achieve my weekly goals for my work, I didn’t do a vlog and my blogs are behind… BUT I have gained more knowledge in Photoshop, I found a better way to create my watercolours artworks, I managed to make it to an art opening that I’m exhibiting in and I got to have some pretty special days with my little one.

So today, I spent some time thinking about what things help us when our weeks feel like we are banging our head on a brick wall. Here are 5 things that I came up with.

  1. An Environment that is in sync with your mind, body and spirit

Have a think about what kind of environment do you need to help you stay centred and at peace throughout the week. This includes things like space, colour, style and sounds. Some people need a minimalistic home or office while others need an ‘organised mess’. Some people need music in the background while others would rather hear nature or the murmurs of people around them. This will change over time as you grow so make sure that your environment stays in sync with you.

  1. Be in good company

The last thing you need is to come home to people who keep you in that heavy place and add more weight to it. It’s true that we are all battling our own battles but we should be in good company where you have each other’s backs, encourage each other when we’re down and help each other see the beauty in life when our world starts to look dim. It really helps to be around people who wish you well, and even if they may not have the right words to say, they can still make you smile by their actions and energy they bring.

  1. Sleep, Eat & Shower

These are basic human things that do a world of good. Starting the day with breakfast helps us take on our heavy weekly load. Eating well and not skipping meals is a must. Sleeping enough is important, starting the day feeling well rested gives us the energy we need as it allows our body and mind to rest. Showering is another one, having a shower every day helps release muscle tension, decreases stress and leaves you feeling fresh and rejuvenated.

  1. Treat yourself

When you have a hectic week, when nothing is going right and you feel like you’re run off your feet; remember to treat yourself. Give yourself a break, no matter how small it is, it’s worth it because you’re worth it. Your sanity and peace of mind is important and at the end of the day, it’s up to you to make sure you maintain your peace.

If you feel yourself crumbling, you are entitled to take a break and treat yourself.

  1. Keep things in perspective

Remember, it could always be worse and whatever you are facing that week, you are capable of working through it.

As someone with anxiety, I have a tendency of blowing things out of proportion and feeling like I’ve ruined EVERYTHING when really it’s not that way at all. I have to keep my hurdles and setbacks in perspective and know that it’s OK to not be super mum and superwoman. I mean, shit happens… so make sure when it does, you keep things in perspective to stop you from losing your mind.

So there are my top 5 things that I came up with. I’m sure there are loads more things I could add to the list but I really need to switch off now by having some dinner and watch Netflix.

Have a wonderful evening

Amy x x

Nurturing Relationships

Nurturing Relationships

Nurturing Relationships

In today’s society with the hustle and bustle, friends, mutual friends and followers, it can make us lose our way at times and if we’re not careful, it can dilute our relationships until they all become a blurred status on our screen as you scroll through your news-feed.

One of the most important things in my life is nurturing relationships in which there is a mutual agreement of love, loyalty and good intention for each other.  There is a beautiful connection that together, we are better people and enrich each others lives  🙂

So today I wanted to talk about finding those people and nurturing those relationships that speak to your vibe.

Find the people that enrich your life just as you enrich theirs and together make it a more positive and beautiful connection.

Here are some helpful tips that I want to share with you.

  1. Find The People That Compliment Your Values

There is beauty in social media in that it helps us expand our social groups and gives us a wide range of views, likes, dislikes and values. It opens our minds and can challenge our perspectives. It’s not a bad thing. However it’s still important to have a a few like minded souls that reflect your values back to you in the way they live and choices they make. It’s a gentle reminder to you and to them if either of you stray from your values. You have each others backs in that sense 🙂

  1. What Purpose Am I Serving Them and Vice Versa?

Reflect on your relationships and ask yourself, what purpose am I serving them and what purpose are they serving me? Relationships are not just about you or them, it is a connection between the two of you and how you can serve a more positive purpose to each other.

  1. Give And Take Ratio

It’s refreshing to have relationships in your tribe that have a fairly equal give and take ratio. You put in effort into the relationship as well as the other person. Reflect on those relationship with whom you invest a lot of your time, energy and love in and ask yourself, am I getting back what I put in? Do we have each other’s backs? Do the same for people who you find have invested their love and energy into you… are you giving back to them as much? Asking these questions help you understand your relationships, what is required of you and what is required of them to maintain a more positive and loving connection.

I really hope this helps people in their journey. We are meant to be in community, we are not designed to live alone. So reflect on your tribe and honour and nurture your relationships. Don’t let them become just another status.

Have A Happy Day!

Amy

xx

6 Things I Miss About Being Pregnant

6 Things I Miss About Being Pregnant

There are a ton of blogs about what we don’t miss about a specific subject. It’s always easier to list what we don’t like or what we don’t miss. Pregnancy seems to be one of them, you can always find blogs about what we don’t miss about pregnancy and the problems and setbacks that come with it.

Keeping my values in mind and what The Olive Tree is about, I wanted to share a list of things that I do miss about being pregnant. I’m not writing this to whinge or whine, nor am I writing this because I’m blindly ignoring the other crappy stuff that comes with pregnancy. I’m writing this to reminisce and to share the positives of this journey and to hopefully send a gentle reminder to those who are pregnant, who may be feeling bad, lonely or fed up, to cherish those authentic moments that only come to you in those 9 months. ❤

  1. The Butterflies

I remember when I first felt those little butterflies in my belly. That feeling was like no other, it was the first little movement just to let me know he’s happy and safe.

  1. No PMS!

9 whole months of no periods. That was one of the perks of being pregnant.

  1. Hearing his heartbeat

That sound on the monitor for the first time was music to my ears! It told me that my little man was safe and happy. That first sound of life is magical.

  1. Feeling him move inside me

The kicks, spins and double flips were all worth it. I mean, I had a big baby (9.4 pounds) so it was taxing on my body but I miss it! I miss that feeling. I miss feeling him kick to the beat when I listened to TOOL. I miss feeling him move when my spirits were down; that movement was a reminder of the little bundle of joy and love inside me.

  1. How strong and empowered I felt

Growing a human inside me made me feel strong. It made me feel womanly and empowering. I was doing the strongest thing my body was designed to do. Yes there were headaches, back aches, nausea, re-flux etc etc (I’m really painting a pretty picture hey?) but they were physical… they were feelings that were temporary. The feeling that remained with me was stronger than that, and that was what I would always try and focus on.

Being pregnant helped me recognise a strength in myself that I didn’t know I had.

  1. The Anticipation

I miss the anticipation of the big day. When we are in anticipation for an event, we are swimming in joy and in excitement. It’s that looking forward to the newborn cuddles, the first time they grab your finger and the first time they giggle. It’s watching them sleep and finally locking eyes with your little one after all this time… I miss that feeling.

I hope you enjoy reading this as much as I enjoyed reminiscing.

Hope you all have a blissful day ❤

Amy

xx

The Olive Tree

The Olive Tree

So I wanted to write about my new venture called The Olive Tree – Create, Love, Inspire.

The Olive Tree will include my blog where I will write about parenting, creativity, personal inspirations, and my poetry. I will also be launching my Etsy shop where you will be able to purchase handmade milestone cards, post cards, art prints for the home, illustrated recipes for children and lastly it will include illustration services.

The Olive Tree came to me as a way to bridge my creative self with my values and my life as a mum, a partner and as a flawed individual.

For as long as I can remember, my art was my way of escaping and exploring. In my younger years, my art was my bubble of make-believe worlds to help me deal with the real world and to calm the chatter in my head. As I grew into womanhood, my art’s purpose became about collaborating with other artists and exploring my practice but there was a part that continued to use it as a tool in creating a space to run to when I needed the quiet or when I didn’t want to face reality. My art has and will always be an obsession but now my purpose for creating has changed.

For a while now, I haven’t felt that need to escape and to keep the two parts of me (art life and mum life) separate. My art’s purpose has changed as I have changed and grown in this life.

The Olive Tree is about bridging that gap between my art life, family life and self-growth. It’s also about promoting a more positive, creative and loving life. We need that in these times and we need to align ourselves with our values again and this is what I want The Olive Tree to reflect.

In the coming month, you will see snippets of my new designs and products which will go up on my Etsy Shop in a months’ time and you will also hear more about my story and more detail about what The Olive Tree will entail. I will also be revealing my new logo and will aim to do some video posts (yikes! Scary!). Lastly, I will be doing a free giveaway of my new work.

I am very excited to be launching The Olive Tree and am very grateful for the support and encouraged that has been given ne to start this.

Amy

Xx