What A Little Birdy Told Me

What A Little Birdy Told Me

Happy Sunday

Last week when I was walking to work, I saw a little bird on the road eating a little chocolate with sprinkles on it. The chocolate was melted into the road and the bird was pecking at the sprinkles and looking up every now and then to check for cars. He looked nervous and excited. It was all about eating the treat without getting squashed by the cars.  He was smart too, he wasn’t going in dodging cars left and right and grabbing a speck; he had timing.

This bird was gutsy! He found something he wanted so badly, that he was risking his life for it. Granted it was sprinkles and melted chocolate on asphalt, but to him it could have been the bee’s knees.

Seeing this prompted me to reflect on what is something in my life that I would go all out for and be so committed to.

What is your bee’s knees? What is something you want so badly that you will go all out for?

Maybe it’s something to do with your business, your studies, relationships or overcoming personal barriers like addictions or unhealthy habits.

Whatever it is, here are some points that I want to share with you guys.

1. Your Comfort Zone VS Where The Magic Happens

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When we stay in our comfort zone which is our little bubble of predictability and familiarity, we stay stagnant. If you want more for yourself, your family or for your business, you need to step out of your comfort zone. If you believe that you can do better, or that you deserve better than what your circumstances are giving you right now, then the first step is to get out of your comfort zone and stir things up. Step into the arena of the new and try something different. Challenge yourself and use that fear to your advantage; that is where the magic starts to happen.

2. Take Calculated Risks

what-if-i-fallBe mindful of what risks you want to take. Think of the best case scenario VS worst case scenario and then be realistic. You can learn a lot about yourself and what you’re capable of when you take risks, you might even surprise yourself

3. Making Sacrifices

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I know this isn’t the best thing to hear. You want it all right? Our culture says that we can have it all, you don’t need to give up anything. I can’t agree with this statement, because any successful person will tell you that when they reached their goal, it didn’t come without sacrifice. You need to accept that to go for what you really want in life, means that you will have to put less energy into other areas of your life at least for a moment in time.

4. Don’t Give Up

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You may think that what you deserve or what you want is unattainable. You may think that it’s too far out of you reach or the path to get there is too scary or too hard for you. Trust me, it’s not. If you are fully committed to it and have passion for it, you can do it. Yes it won’t be a walk in the park, yes it won’t happen overnight but the beauty that comes with that journey makes it worth it and when you get to your destination, the view will be spectacular.

Remember that you are precious with a strength inside you that’s just waiting to be tapped into. If you have a dream, a goal, or if you want to change something about yourself, think about these things and go for it.

Have A Blessed Day!

Amy xx

“Stay In Your Head – You’re Dead”

“Stay In Your Head – You’re Dead”

Hey Beautifuls!
Lately, my partner and I have been watching a lot of Tony Robbins. You may have heard of him, he’s a life coach, business/relationship expert and all round awesome guy with a lot of knowledge to share.

Yesterday, I was watching some clips on YouTube and one thing (of many) that stood out for me was this message: Stay in your head – your dead – now I know he doesn’t mean this literally but there is some truth to this.

Staying in our head is like a room for our fears and insecurities to put on plays for us. They make up scripts, stories and scenarios for us to watch and feast on and it can detach us from reality around us and create more anxiety and more fears of things that don’t exist. Even more so, it can focus in and highlight the negative parts of our partners or people that are close to us and completely wipe out the positives. We all have a dark side and a light side, and staying in your head at a time when you are vulnerable and going through conflicts/problems can highlight only the dark side in the person or people you are conflicting with and that puts you in a position of attack and react – rather then openness and willingness to understand.

Staying in your head means you aren’t present. You may be in the company of your partner, work colleagues or friends but you really aren’t there; you’re there with a cloud over your mind. You may be watching replays of past experiences that were painful or shameful and I tend to believe that the more we let our mind replay them, over time the replay can change and shifts from what the reality actually was (for some experiences). When we stay in our head watching replays, it affects our present in how we behave, feel and see things.

It can sometimes distort our perceptions of people we love because we assign a replay of our past to their existence even when they weren’t part it.

Staying in your head can stop you from growing and changing. Right now as you are,  you have strength, confidence and love to bring to yourself and others. You CAN GROW. You CAN CHANGE. What can stop us in our tracks is staying in our head. When we do this and don’t come up for air, we give permission for our fears, doubts, insecurities and pain to rewrite the bad stories, replay the scene over and over and when we come back to reality, we don’t believe in ourselves anymore. We say things like “I can’t do this, look at what I did! I’m a loser” “There’s not point, I tried quitting before and fucked up, I’m just not that person” “She/He’s too good for me, they can’t know my past” There starts to be a whole lot of no’s and cant’s which can stop you from giving love, receiving love and accepting the beautiful moments that appear. It stop you from bettering yourself because your head tells you, you can’t.

You can quit bad habits, you can achieve happiness and that person adores you – you deserve that love and he/she deserves love from you.

So this is my little rant on what I thought of when I heard that “stay in your head – your dead” quote.

Of course there is a need for reflection and analysis of yourself, situations and people to determine what is right for you, but don’t get comfortable in your head and allow the fear, pain and shame to be put on replay.

Stay present, stay mindful and stay open to love, challenges and to your relationships.

Please leave a comment if this speaks to you or if you have a perspective on this or an idea 🙂 I’d love to hear from you.

Wishing you guys the most sweetest Sunday ❤

Amy xx

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