“There Is No Such Thing As A Perfect Parent. So Just Be A Real One” Sue Atkins

“There Is No Such Thing As A Perfect Parent. So Just Be A Real One” Sue Atkins

Heya Parents!

Question: What do you guys think being a real parent means?

I personally think it’s about the people who show up, be present and really take ownership of and are committed to raising, supporting and showing unconditional love to that child. Also, a real parent is someone who struggles, who makes a mistake or who breaks down but get’s up and moves forward in love, strength and forgiveness.

Real parents are not squeaky clean or always having their shit together and have perfect homes with children who don’t kick and scream.

A perfect parent does not exist in this reality and we should stop striving to reach that perfectionism. Instead, we should stay present in our own family unit and try to be the best parent we can each day.

Don’t feel guilty if this week you can’t buy that toy your daughter’s been going on about all week. Don’t feel bad if, at the end of a long crazy day, you put your kids in front of the TV so you can have some time to yourself. Don’t get down on yourself if you can’t cook a home-made, natural, organic feast every night and some nights your kids might have Baked Beans on toast.

Be content in yourself that your daughter has all she needs and be positive that one day you will surprise her with that toy and she will love it!  Also, when you put that TV on, remind yourself that you deserve a moment’s peace while the kid’s zone out because you need it. You need to be okay with yourself so you can keep being an awesome parent and if that means having some chill time, then let it be. Lastly, Be bloody proud of yourself that you managed to be resourceful so that your children don’t have to go hungry because you got it sorted! 😀 And baked beans on toast isn’t going to kill them 😉

A real parent smiles, laughs, yells, cries and cheers. A real parent is someone that accepts that they don’t have all the answers but every day they are there, doing the best damn job as a parent that they can be.

Peace and Love

Amy

xx

Sunday Funday With A Side Of Chill

Sunday Funday With A Side Of Chill

Happy Sunday Peeps!
Today has been what I would call, Sunday Funday With A Side Of Chill. My son had a birthday party to go to in the morning and luckily we could walk to the party through the beautiful Kedron Brook 🌳🌷🌞so we had a bit of an adventure walking along the water and the creeks and then spent the morning until midday at the party with lots of playing, lollies and giggles. It was refreshing for me to meet other mums and more of my son’s friends. 💝🍭🍰🍓
On the way home, my son happily walked along eating his lollies and just as we both started to feel worn out we arrived home and then spent most of the day lying about watching movies. I don’t usually feel lethargic and sleepy during the day, but today I was so exhausted I could have napped if I allowed myself to. This never happens (my partner can attest to this) I always have too much energy and too much going on in my head to settle haha.
It’s now 5:30 pm, my man is cooking dinner and my boy is chilling out, so now it’s hustle time  I have 2 more illustrations to do for my food week and then tomorrow I will start my new theme! 

Time to write, time to illustrate 😊
I hope you guys had a wonderful Sunday,
Amy
Xx

It Was A Stand-Off

Hey Guys,

Keeping in with this weeks theme of FOOD. I thought I would tell you one of the stand-off’s I had with my boy about eating his dinner.

It was a day or so after his birthday and when my mum had left, she had put the leftover cake and sweets in the bottom of the fridge in perfect view for my son. This was a big mistake. Later when I told my mum the story she laughed… I truly believe she did that on purpose.

So I had cooked a really yummy dinner, all fresh ingredients with lentils, herbs, small diced veggies (so he would eat it) and some sausages cut up for him. He had had this before so I wasn’t expecting any dramas. When he saw it he said NO and demanded to have his dessert first and also that his dinner was yucky and he didn’t want to eat it yada yada yada. Right then, I started to feel the rage. In my head I was yelling OMG Child! I cook you dinner, slave away at the stove making sure you are eating healthy and this is how you play it!”
On the outside I remained calm and said, “No eat your dinner first without complaining and then you can have a treat”.

Then he replied, “No i dont like it!” (seriously child, yes you do, you’ve had it before without a hiccup so yes you do) this went back and forthe way too many times and that’s when I realised I needed to a new tactic: silence.

So I turned off the TV and we sat in silence. Me sitting at the table with his dinner and him sitting at the floor in front of the frige staring ahead holding his ground and refusing to look at me. At that point I was clearly furious but also a little amused at seeing his stern look at the fridge as if hoping his stare would magically open the fridge and serve him a plate of cake. (I should mention that when I have confrontations with the little man, sometimes it makes me laugh and I have to try really hard to keep my composure otherwise it all unravels)

I swear it felt like this night went forever, I wasn’t going to back down and neither was he. I was looking at him trying to send him telepathic messages; Come on little dude, it’s just easier to eat the damn food!

Finally he caved, mumbling and sooking as he shuffled back to the table and started to eat. After the first bite he says “mmm yummy!” and that was the end of it; tantrum child changed back into a happy child.

I sat there feeling proud and triumphant that I didn’t cave to his sugary needs but also slightly crazed and annoyed that we had to go through all of this, for him to just eat the food and realise that it was actually tasty after all!

What challenges have you faced when trying to get your kids to eat their dinner? What things have worked for you or what things have failed?

Have a sweet day!

Amy

xx

What All Mums Have In Common

What All Mums Have In Common

Hey Guys!
I’ve been meeting a lot more mums lately as my little man is getting ready for school next year and it’s made me think about motherhood and what unites us together. It’s time we stop the ‘Mummy Wars’. We don’t need people judging our every move in how we parent, if anything, we need to connect, empathise and uplift.

Remember, every mum loses their shit, every mum has wiped a butt, dealt with tantrums, been sleep deprived and has been spewed on. No matter what you look like; if you’re having a scraggly puffy eyed kinda day or if you look like you danced out of an Instagram filter, there are some key commonalities that we can all agree on:

  1. We All Want Our Children To Be Healthy

No matter if you have private health insurance or not, or whether you choose alternative medicine or western medicine. The bottom line is that it all comes from our desire to keep our children healthy. The path may be paved differently but the goal is still the same.

  1. We All Want Our Children To Be Happy

No matter where you come from or how little you have or how much you have, seeing happiness flow through your child is magic and you’ll do whatever you can to prolong that happiness.

  1. We All Worry

We’ve all experienced the worry warts when it comes to our child’s health, safety and wellbeing. Sure it may be expressed in different areas, for example; some mums are happy to let their kids climb those high death traps you see in playgrounds while other mums freak out if their child climbs higher than they can reach. It doesn’t matter, it’s up to them but we can all agree that we all worry about our kids and being connected to other mums who can show empathy when the worries hit, can help a lot.

  1. We All Need Our Mum Time

Growing up with a single mum and in my time as a single mum, I know the need for mum time, for the alone time, for the breather. But I also get it from the other side of the fence. I’ve seen nuclear families who are very privileged and the mum is just as tired, just as worn out and has little time for herself. We all have our limit, we all need our mum time and we are all entitled to it and should not be judged for needing a breather. No amount of money or status makes you a robot immune to the stresses and pressures of raising a family.

  1. We All Need Support

All mums need support and that support comes in all different shapes and sizes. We all have our moments of insanity and our moments of helplessness. In my family, the women are the head of the family, the strong ones and the ones that keep it all together and that can be a lonely road if we don’t ask for support. It may seem that some mums have it all together but in reality, we all need support at times during our parenting journey.We all have our moments and having a connection with other mums that get it, can make a world of difference.

  1. We Don’t Want To Screw Up Our Kids

No mum out there had a child that came with a handbook. There is no cheat sheet, no private lab that rewires your brain allowing you to know how to parent the correct way. We are all trying to figure it out the best way we can with what we have at the time. No mum wants to screw her kids up and we all just want to give our kids the best life possible so they can grow up to be beautifully abled adults with a touch of dysfunctionality just to keep things interesting.

 I hope you enjoyed reading my list of commonalities. The last one that goes without saying but I’m going to say it anyway is that we all love our children ❤

Have a wonderful evening

Amy

Xx

 

5 Things To Help You Get Through Those Hectic Weeks

5 Things To Help You Get Through Those Hectic Weeks

Happy Sunday!

First off, how awesome is Garfield, especially the original cartoon 😀 I just had to use him for this blog.

It’s Sunday evening and I’m now able to sit and reflect on my week. It feels like there’s been a poltergeist following me around creating hurdles for me everywhere I went. One of my cats got sick (a burst abscess from a cat bite (from the neighbourhood jerk cat) but he’s doing much better now phew!), my scanner decided to give up on life all week until today and the place where I went to scan my work in, scanned them all too bright for me to work with them and to top it off, my bathroom sink blocked.

It’s been one of those weeks where I kept singing “just keep swimming, just keep swimming” over and over. Luckily, I have an amazing partner to keep me from falling into a bumbling mess as my goals for my work and my store has fallen behind and luckily, I have my little love who always reminds me that the sun still rises for everyone even when it’s looking dark.

So yes, I didn’t achieve my weekly goals for my work, I didn’t do a vlog and my blogs are behind… BUT I have gained more knowledge in Photoshop, I found a better way to create my watercolours artworks, I managed to make it to an art opening that I’m exhibiting in and I got to have some pretty special days with my little one.

So today, I spent some time thinking about what things help us when our weeks feel like we are banging our head on a brick wall. Here are 5 things that I came up with.

  1. An Environment that is in sync with your mind, body and spirit

Have a think about what kind of environment do you need to help you stay centred and at peace throughout the week. This includes things like space, colour, style and sounds. Some people need a minimalistic home or office while others need an ‘organised mess’. Some people need music in the background while others would rather hear nature or the murmurs of people around them. This will change over time as you grow so make sure that your environment stays in sync with you.

  1. Be in good company

The last thing you need is to come home to people who keep you in that heavy place and add more weight to it. It’s true that we are all battling our own battles but we should be in good company where you have each other’s backs, encourage each other when we’re down and help each other see the beauty in life when our world starts to look dim. It really helps to be around people who wish you well, and even if they may not have the right words to say, they can still make you smile by their actions and energy they bring.

  1. Sleep, Eat & Shower

These are basic human things that do a world of good. Starting the day with breakfast helps us take on our heavy weekly load. Eating well and not skipping meals is a must. Sleeping enough is important, starting the day feeling well rested gives us the energy we need as it allows our body and mind to rest. Showering is another one, having a shower every day helps release muscle tension, decreases stress and leaves you feeling fresh and rejuvenated.

  1. Treat yourself

When you have a hectic week, when nothing is going right and you feel like you’re run off your feet; remember to treat yourself. Give yourself a break, no matter how small it is, it’s worth it because you’re worth it. Your sanity and peace of mind is important and at the end of the day, it’s up to you to make sure you maintain your peace.

If you feel yourself crumbling, you are entitled to take a break and treat yourself.

  1. Keep things in perspective

Remember, it could always be worse and whatever you are facing that week, you are capable of working through it.

As someone with anxiety, I have a tendency of blowing things out of proportion and feeling like I’ve ruined EVERYTHING when really it’s not that way at all. I have to keep my hurdles and setbacks in perspective and know that it’s OK to not be super mum and superwoman. I mean, shit happens… so make sure when it does, you keep things in perspective to stop you from losing your mind.

So there are my top 5 things that I came up with. I’m sure there are loads more things I could add to the list but I really need to switch off now by having some dinner and watch Netflix.

Have a wonderful evening

Amy x x