Motivational Mondays

Motivational Mondays

The Expert In Anything Was Once A Beginner

As you start this week, start it with passion and drive! Know where your goal is and work towards it. Every successful person, every expert, was once where you are now; at the beginning. They were on the ground, learning from trial and error, learning from elders, from peers and from experts.

Remember that every step counts as long as you start and especially maintain momentum and consistency.

There is always a beginning for everything. If this week you are determined to start your goal and then follow your intention with action, you are already closer to your goal than you were last week.

Stay true to your truth, get excited and stay focused ❤

Amy

xx

The Olive Tree

Check Your Self-Talk

Check Your Self-Talk

To live a more positive and loving life, we need to check in with ourselves; our mind, body and spirit. We need to reconnect, become aware of ourselves and make sure that we are giving ourselves the right things and treating ourselves the right way.

What I want to write about today is about checking in with ourselves and stopping that negative self-talk that can pop up from time to time. We all have those voices in our head that keep us up at night or create anxiety about events that haven’t even happened yet. It can make us feel down, doubtful and angry.

I’m not an expert in this field, but I do have tools that I have used in the past to help me keep a more peaceful self-talk and battle that negative mind chatter that comes with having anxiety.

Here are my tips:

  1. VISUALIZE IT

If you’re a very visual person like I am, this might help you. I picture my negative self-talk scrawled on a piece of paper. When I see it I scrunch it up into a ball and throw in a tiny bin in the corner. It may sound silly but it helps. It will help you see that the negative talk is something that is insignificant and not needed and that you are stronger than it and are in control of it.

  1. ASK YOURSELF, WOULD YOU SAY THAT TO YOUR BEST FRIEND?

We are our best friends cheerleaders, we love them, support them and encourage them. When it comes to our own stuff, our self-talk can do the opposite. Things like “I’m an idiot, I always mess up” “I can’t do that” or “OMG I can’t do anything right” start to fly through the landscape of our mind like a blimp. Why do we do that to ourselves when we are the complete opposite for the people that we love? When you start seeing that in yourself, stop and ask yourself, is this something I would say to my best friend? A simple question can stop that flow of negative talk and give you a chance to regroup and rethink.

  1. THE RUBBERBAND

My psychologist recommended this to me each time I noticed that negative self-talk come in. I would pull the band and let it snap my wrist as a way if snapping me back to the present and keeping me from being consumed by my negative mind chatter. You don’t have to use this if you don’t want to, obviously. But having something around that will help you get out of that pit and back to the present can be helpful.

  1. ACKNOWLEDGE IT, AND TALK TO IT

This may sound crazy but hear me out. One thing that can help is seeing that it’s there and talking to it like it’s another person. This person needs to be calmed down and needs to be told to go away and that it’s not needed. This person isn’t a part of you, it isn’t who you are. Become the kind inner voice that you need and let it drown out the negative.

  1. IMPERFECTIONS ARE A PART OF US

We need to stop holding ourselves to impossibly high standards. Perfectionism can be soul crushing, it can feel so heavy on our shoulders that even when we are progressing and improving, we can’t even see it because we are looking for that perfection. If you make a mistake, remind yourself that it’s a part of life and now you have gained more knowledge from having made that mistake. It’s okay to be imperfect and to make a mistake. Go easy on yourself and embrace your imperfections.

I hope you all have a wonderful Sunday and thank you for reading <3. If you enjoyed reading this and feel it speaks to you then please give it a like and share it around. If you have any tips you would like to share then please do so in the comments.

Amy

Xxx

5 Things To Help You Get Through Those Hectic Weeks

5 Things To Help You Get Through Those Hectic Weeks

Happy Sunday!

First off, how awesome is Garfield, especially the original cartoon 😀 I just had to use him for this blog.

It’s Sunday evening and I’m now able to sit and reflect on my week. It feels like there’s been a poltergeist following me around creating hurdles for me everywhere I went. One of my cats got sick (a burst abscess from a cat bite (from the neighbourhood jerk cat) but he’s doing much better now phew!), my scanner decided to give up on life all week until today and the place where I went to scan my work in, scanned them all too bright for me to work with them and to top it off, my bathroom sink blocked.

It’s been one of those weeks where I kept singing “just keep swimming, just keep swimming” over and over. Luckily, I have an amazing partner to keep me from falling into a bumbling mess as my goals for my work and my store has fallen behind and luckily, I have my little love who always reminds me that the sun still rises for everyone even when it’s looking dark.

So yes, I didn’t achieve my weekly goals for my work, I didn’t do a vlog and my blogs are behind… BUT I have gained more knowledge in Photoshop, I found a better way to create my watercolours artworks, I managed to make it to an art opening that I’m exhibiting in and I got to have some pretty special days with my little one.

So today, I spent some time thinking about what things help us when our weeks feel like we are banging our head on a brick wall. Here are 5 things that I came up with.

  1. An Environment that is in sync with your mind, body and spirit

Have a think about what kind of environment do you need to help you stay centred and at peace throughout the week. This includes things like space, colour, style and sounds. Some people need a minimalistic home or office while others need an ‘organised mess’. Some people need music in the background while others would rather hear nature or the murmurs of people around them. This will change over time as you grow so make sure that your environment stays in sync with you.

  1. Be in good company

The last thing you need is to come home to people who keep you in that heavy place and add more weight to it. It’s true that we are all battling our own battles but we should be in good company where you have each other’s backs, encourage each other when we’re down and help each other see the beauty in life when our world starts to look dim. It really helps to be around people who wish you well, and even if they may not have the right words to say, they can still make you smile by their actions and energy they bring.

  1. Sleep, Eat & Shower

These are basic human things that do a world of good. Starting the day with breakfast helps us take on our heavy weekly load. Eating well and not skipping meals is a must. Sleeping enough is important, starting the day feeling well rested gives us the energy we need as it allows our body and mind to rest. Showering is another one, having a shower every day helps release muscle tension, decreases stress and leaves you feeling fresh and rejuvenated.

  1. Treat yourself

When you have a hectic week, when nothing is going right and you feel like you’re run off your feet; remember to treat yourself. Give yourself a break, no matter how small it is, it’s worth it because you’re worth it. Your sanity and peace of mind is important and at the end of the day, it’s up to you to make sure you maintain your peace.

If you feel yourself crumbling, you are entitled to take a break and treat yourself.

  1. Keep things in perspective

Remember, it could always be worse and whatever you are facing that week, you are capable of working through it.

As someone with anxiety, I have a tendency of blowing things out of proportion and feeling like I’ve ruined EVERYTHING when really it’s not that way at all. I have to keep my hurdles and setbacks in perspective and know that it’s OK to not be super mum and superwoman. I mean, shit happens… so make sure when it does, you keep things in perspective to stop you from losing your mind.

So there are my top 5 things that I came up with. I’m sure there are loads more things I could add to the list but I really need to switch off now by having some dinner and watch Netflix.

Have a wonderful evening

Amy x x

6 Things I Miss About Being Pregnant

6 Things I Miss About Being Pregnant

There are a ton of blogs about what we don’t miss about a specific subject. It’s always easier to list what we don’t like or what we don’t miss. Pregnancy seems to be one of them, you can always find blogs about what we don’t miss about pregnancy and the problems and setbacks that come with it.

Keeping my values in mind and what The Olive Tree is about, I wanted to share a list of things that I do miss about being pregnant. I’m not writing this to whinge or whine, nor am I writing this because I’m blindly ignoring the other crappy stuff that comes with pregnancy. I’m writing this to reminisce and to share the positives of this journey and to hopefully send a gentle reminder to those who are pregnant, who may be feeling bad, lonely or fed up, to cherish those authentic moments that only come to you in those 9 months. ❤

  1. The Butterflies

I remember when I first felt those little butterflies in my belly. That feeling was like no other, it was the first little movement just to let me know he’s happy and safe.

  1. No PMS!

9 whole months of no periods. That was one of the perks of being pregnant.

  1. Hearing his heartbeat

That sound on the monitor for the first time was music to my ears! It told me that my little man was safe and happy. That first sound of life is magical.

  1. Feeling him move inside me

The kicks, spins and double flips were all worth it. I mean, I had a big baby (9.4 pounds) so it was taxing on my body but I miss it! I miss that feeling. I miss feeling him kick to the beat when I listened to TOOL. I miss feeling him move when my spirits were down; that movement was a reminder of the little bundle of joy and love inside me.

  1. How strong and empowered I felt

Growing a human inside me made me feel strong. It made me feel womanly and empowering. I was doing the strongest thing my body was designed to do. Yes there were headaches, back aches, nausea, re-flux etc etc (I’m really painting a pretty picture hey?) but they were physical… they were feelings that were temporary. The feeling that remained with me was stronger than that, and that was what I would always try and focus on.

Being pregnant helped me recognise a strength in myself that I didn’t know I had.

  1. The Anticipation

I miss the anticipation of the big day. When we are in anticipation for an event, we are swimming in joy and in excitement. It’s that looking forward to the newborn cuddles, the first time they grab your finger and the first time they giggle. It’s watching them sleep and finally locking eyes with your little one after all this time… I miss that feeling.

I hope you enjoy reading this as much as I enjoyed reminiscing.

Hope you all have a blissful day ❤

Amy

xx

10 Things Creative People Do Differently

10 Things Creative People Do Differently

Here are 10 things that I’ve noticed that us creative folks do different

  1. We question everything

We are constantly questioning and figuring out stuff. We are curious and that’s part of what drives us to create

  1. We see the world through the eyes of a child

We see the world around us as opportunities, wonder, what if’s and play. We have to grow up but we always keep that child inside us, alive.

  1. We get lost in the moment

When we are creating, when we are really in the moment; nothing else matters. We forget to sleep, eat, shower (gross I know). Everything else becomes obsolete and it’s just us and our work/

  1. We are daydreamers

Daydreaming isn’t a bad thing. I gives us time in the day for our imagination to play and the little characters in our head to come out and walk about.

  1. We have a love/hate relationship with our pieces

Some days we are in love with our creations and other times we hate them with a passion. The love/hate relationship drives us and pulls out ideas and colours.

  1. We stop, look and listen

We love people watching, sitting down listening to chatter, music and behaviours. We love to observe, finding the little details as those are the things that help our inspiration bloom

  1. We are easily distracted.

I am exactly like my father in the sense that we can be doing something and without a warning say “look at that! Wow!” we are always taking in everything around us that when something pops out, we have no filter or pathway that says “stop, wait, is this the right time or place to mention it?” and sometimes we don’t have to say anything but most of the time we just get too excited about it! The only time I see this as alarming is when I’m in the car with my dad whose driving and he says “look at that cloud it looks like a tiger!” while he is meant to be watching the road.

  1. We are highly sensitive

Most of us feel things deeply and passionately. We feel what others are feeling and are sensitive to energy and personalities around us. We need a creative outlet to unload it all and express it.

  1. We make use of our pain

I have used my pain and trauma to create. The setbacks, the pain and obstacles I have had to face have given me an insight which has lead to inspiration and that is one thing that we creatives use. Pain and trauma no longer control us but we use it to create something positive.

  1. We NEED space/time to create

The desire to create is an obsession and a need. We need it for our spirit and our mind and helps our emotional state. I know that if it’s been too long since I’ve created, I find myself getting frustrated easily, fidgety and just yuk to be around.