Nurturing Relationships

Nurturing Relationships

Nurturing Relationships

In today’s society with the hustle and bustle, friends, mutual friends and followers, it can make us lose our way at times and if we’re not careful, it can dilute our relationships until they all become a blurred status on our screen as you scroll through your news-feed.

One of the most important things in my life is nurturing relationships in which there is a mutual agreement of love, loyalty and good intention for each other.  There is a beautiful connection that together, we are better people and enrich each others lives  🙂

So today I wanted to talk about finding those people and nurturing those relationships that speak to your vibe.

Find the people that enrich your life just as you enrich theirs and together make it a more positive and beautiful connection.

Here are some helpful tips that I want to share with you.

  1. Find The People That Compliment Your Values

There is beauty in social media in that it helps us expand our social groups and gives us a wide range of views, likes, dislikes and values. It opens our minds and can challenge our perspectives. It’s not a bad thing. However it’s still important to have a a few like minded souls that reflect your values back to you in the way they live and choices they make. It’s a gentle reminder to you and to them if either of you stray from your values. You have each others backs in that sense 🙂

  1. What Purpose Am I Serving Them and Vice Versa?

Reflect on your relationships and ask yourself, what purpose am I serving them and what purpose are they serving me? Relationships are not just about you or them, it is a connection between the two of you and how you can serve a more positive purpose to each other.

  1. Give And Take Ratio

It’s refreshing to have relationships in your tribe that have a fairly equal give and take ratio. You put in effort into the relationship as well as the other person. Reflect on those relationship with whom you invest a lot of your time, energy and love in and ask yourself, am I getting back what I put in? Do we have each other’s backs? Do the same for people who you find have invested their love and energy into you… are you giving back to them as much? Asking these questions help you understand your relationships, what is required of you and what is required of them to maintain a more positive and loving connection.

I really hope this helps people in their journey. We are meant to be in community, we are not designed to live alone. So reflect on your tribe and honour and nurture your relationships. Don’t let them become just another status.

Have A Happy Day!

Amy

xx

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A Storyteller’s Dream

A Storyteller’s Dream

Eyes

Windows to the soul

A storyteller’s dream

A truth seekers ball

 

Powerful beyond measure

Can make or break

Dictate and obliterate

 

But it cannot fake

Just look closer

Past the pupil

Past the illusion

And into the real

 

They can be deadly

But also enchanting

Isn’t that the same thing?

 

Eyes alone show us what’s real

A smile on display

With sorrow in the back

Begging to be noticed

To be free from the traps

 

Eyes never sleep

They never tire

For when we sleep

They have what they desire

They are free from their nest

Out in the world with no safety net

 

Eyes are truth

Beauty

Love

Pain

Strength

But are never weak

For they see what needs to be seen

And we choose when to be blind

 

3 Things That 2016 Taught Me

3 Things That 2016 Taught Me

1. We Are All Looking For Love

 

Now I’m not talking about love between a man and a woman… I’m talking about love in general. We are all looking for the feeling, to find our tribe and have people around us that LOVE us unconditionally. To find people that can see our mess, our bad habits, but still love us anyways. When we have that tribe, it’s like having our safety net. I see it as a space to breathe, to be imperfect while having the room and encouragement to better yourself without judgment, ‘likes’ or ‘reactions’. We don’t need that, we just need our loving tribe around us. When we don’t, we can become self-sabotaging and destructive. They say you can’t love others until you can love yourself, and one way we can love ourselves is choosing the right company, the right tribe and put energy into building those loving relationships that help us be our better selves. This world was not created to live it in alone.

2. Get Your Head Out Of The Screens

We need to lift our heads up and see what’s around us. Facebook will always be there; that newsfeed will always be regurgitating new updates, photos and articles for us to feast our eyes up… but the things that we won’t be able to rewatch or save for later will be the moments in front of us. For me, it’s talking to my 3 and a half-year-old, seeing his face light up, feeling his cuddles and watching him grow and create. These things are unique in their own way, they are pure and they deserve attention. Another moment for me is talking to my boyfriend at the end of the day when the kids are asleep, we both realized that at the end of the day, we were so tired we ended up escaping into screen world and not giving our relationship the time and energy it needs.

3. Treat Yourself

As parents, we are providers and protectors; society puts pressure on us to be the parent that juggles EVERYTHING without losing their shit. When we do this, it may work for a little while but after a while we start to crack; we lose ourselves, our health (physically, spiritually, mentally) and then we may end up cracking over the smallest of things because we can no longer see them as individual things and we end up seeing them as the big ball we need to balance on 1 leg on a tightrope. We NEED to treat ourselves; if this year has taught me anything, it’s to take time off. Do something that is just for you; whether it’s sitting down at a cafe and having a coffee (instead of rushing through with a takeaway), going to the gym for half an hour (I do this every day now as it helps my anxiety, my sleep, and peace of mind). Whatever it is, we need a time in our day and/or week where it is solely just for us. I realize now that I am much better for myself, my family and my work when I do this. It’s hard to do but if you have the support and encouragement from loved ones around you, it is possible.

 

 

 

 

 

What’s In A Muse?

What’s In A Muse?

A Muse
What’s in a Muse?
Is it to inspire or admire
To love to hate
Or hate to love
Will it grow tired?

Is it a desire
Welcomed by the spirit
Controlled by the fire
And set alight by your passion
To send a message to the masses

It intoxicates the senses
Drops down your defences
And makes way for inventions
Painted magic with pure intentions

By Amy de Oliveira